As a highly sensitive person you often tend to react to someone else's moods and behaviour. In many cases you will act in a negative way. The Hsp's that have lead an troubled childhood often act out of fear. Dr. Aron emphasises that Hsp's and not Hsp's must learn to compromise to succeed in their relationship. Also it's important to accept each others differences instead of blaming each other for its temperament.

When relationships become hostile both parties often don't really listen to each other. Instead of listening you maybe thinking of ways to cope with the emotional pain you're feeling. Probably you don't even hear a word of the "humiliations" the other is making while you're waiting for a chance to express your pain. When you listen actively, the conflict mostly ends. Next time you argue about something try the next experiment:
Focus on the person you're talking to for only 5 minutes, without giving your opinion or your personal experience. Only reflect what is said from a loving and sympathetic place in your heart. Try to listen to the deeper meaning behind the words to fully understand what the other wants.

For Hsp's that have been hurt it isn't easy to listen carefully. When you stay calm and centred instead of reacting, it's easier to solve a conflict. When you interrupt in a judging way the situation will only become unpleasant and hostile. When you feel hurt during an argue, you better end it. Centre yourself by deep abdominal breathing. When you're calm and centred, you are prepared to listen actively instead of reactively squabbling.